- Do you feel guilty and responsible for the drinking or drug
problem of a family member of friend?
- Does that person's behavior, when drinking/drugging, cause
you embarrassment?
- Have money problems become a focus of concern to you and
others in your family?
- Is it hard to talk about the dependent person's problem with
other members of the family or with friends-- is it a "family
secret"?
- Do you cry often or feel like crying?
- Does your mood swing from happy to sad in response to what's
happening to your loved one's mood?
- Do you have trouble knowing what you're feeling?
- Have you felt anger or frustration toward someone for drinking
or using drugs?
- Are your feelings blocked, frozen or closed off?
- Do you try to regulate or monitor in any way the amount of
alcohol or drugs that person uses? (Hiding or throwing away alcohol
or drugs?)
- Do you hope the drinking/using will stop and everything will
be "like it used to be"?
- Have you taken on responsibilities that used to be his/hers?
- Do you tend to see most responsibilities as yours?
- Do you feel as if you are a "fake" - that no one
knows the real you?
- Have you questioned your own drinking or drug use?
- Does the smell of beer or liquor make you sick or tense?
- Do you have physical problems yourself such as headaches,
backaches, nausea, weight gain or loss, stomach pain, insomnia,
etc.?
- Do you feel hopeless and depressed, unable to "fix it"
no matter what you've done?
- Do you keep hoping it will be better tomorrow, or next week
or next year?
- Do you feel different from others - that no one else has
a problem quite like yours?
- Do you wonder why, even though you are competent, that life
doesn't seem to be working out the way you had planned?
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